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Surprise Food in little Packages


Look at what was delivered to my door last night,  accompanied by the smiling, happy face of New Friend.  I tell you, this was almost as fun as being the giver of the food.  The joy and happiness on her face as she surprised us was infectious.

I’m hoping to make another delivery this weekend.
So, we had no idea what this kind of food was.  I have never encountered it before, the kids thought maybe doughnuts.  I thought maybe dinner rolls.  10 minutes later at Iftar, my son took his first bite of food after 16 hours of fasting, he chose one of these little pockets of yummy dough.  He found that they were filled with rice, meat, peas and pine nuts spiced very delicately.  The bread ended up being puff pastry dough, and the filling was spiced with cinnamon and allspice (probably 7 spice.)  The tops were golden brown and buttery but looked like they might have been treated with an eggwash prior to baking.  My son said they were like Kibbe, but without the hard outer shell.

Last night after dinner was over and the aftermath cleared away, floor swept (by Khaled and son) we went to Taraweeh prayers.  I ran upstairs to shower and change and found myself not wanting to try to figure out what to wear that would be appropriate.  I just didn’t have the energy.  So I grabbed my Abaya – y’no the one I bought in the spring and put that on over the white pants I made just for that purpose.  I am finding it easier to reach for my Abaya to wear on occasions when I know it will be appropriate and I just don’t want to put too much thought into what I’m wearing.

We didn’t stay for the whole time, but just a few Rakas and then went home.  I’m not sure what, if anything, the children got out of that short of time being there.  Also, we went to the Masjid where the girls pray in a completely different room than the men.  The ladies were a bit lost and I didn’t know what to tell them except for just follow along.  When we got back in the car, Khaled explained what was happening and why it was so very different from the regular way of praying, but I felt like I had failed in a teaching moment.  At that moment, when I was watching the girls and their confused little faces, I wished that I could teach them, and I knew how to explain to them what was going on.  I knew that the Imam was reciting the first Surah of The Quran, but I didn’t know why it was being broken down the way it was.  So I sat there, and watched over my ladies from the hallway and when we saw that we had been there an hour, it was time to go home.


5 Comments leave one →
  1. 08/04/2011 10:00 AM

    They look good but what are they?

    • 08/04/2011 10:08 AM

      Sorry, I’ve not gotten the hang of editing my mobile posts before they go live! This was posted and then I came back and edited the photo down and wrote the rest.

  2. Ahmed Durrani permalink
    08/04/2011 11:33 AM

    I really don’t like masjids that segregate women in separate rooms. This is not how the Prophet did it (i.e. his sunnah) and it’s not how we should do it.

    During Taraweeh prayers, the Imam may read sections from the Quran that require a special prostration. However, because women are separated they can’t see that the imam has performed this special prostration and can get lost.

    Most of these masjids claim to follow the Sunnah but when you bring up the issue of a separated woman’s prayer area they go all nuts on you.

    • 08/05/2011 10:10 AM

      What would your ideal prayer space look like?

      I prefer to be in the same room with my husband when he is praying, but I know that there is a lot of cultural baggage still to be shed before men and women can pray side by side. In my own city, we have 3 different Mosques that deal with this issue 3 different ways. One has the men and women divided by a 1/2 wall barrier, the second has the women and men in different rooms, and the third has the women pray at the back of the room and in the balcony.

  3. Ahmed Durrani permalink
    08/05/2011 12:53 PM

    I prefer to follow the Prophet and how he prayed with his congregation. Worship in Islam can’t be changed and the way we pray is only how he taught us to pray. His congregation did not separate the women in a different room or balcony. He had them pray with him in the same room and there is wisdom in not separating the two in different places. However, there is also wisdom in not having men and women praying side-by-side.

    At home, a husband and wife could pray side-by-side and some scholars say she can even lead the prayer. However, in the Prophet’s congregations the men prayed in front and the women prayed in the rows behind them. There was no wall, balcony or barrier. In fact once his wife, Aisha, attempted to put up a small cloth to separate herself in the Masjid and the Prophet told her to take it down and not to separate herself.

    If the Prophet wanted, he could have had the women pray at home, in a different room, or on their own separated from men. It would have been the norm in his society. But he didn’t. Instead, he included them in his congregation. The question then becomes what is the best way to have men and woman to pray in congregation. And not just during his time, but for all times to come.

    For this you need to look at worship in Islam in it’s full context. It requires focus and humility so you can’t be intoxicated when you pray. Our worship also requires physical action (i.e. bowing and prostrating) and should be free from distraction (i.e. pictures, music, etc.). And let’s be frank, there is obviously going to be sexual tension if men and women are praying side-by-side. So it only makes sense that when it comes to the issue of men and women praying together in congregation, the best option is how our Prophet showed us to pray. Men fill the rows in front and women fill the rows behind. It’s simple and repeatable.

    Of course in western society, back rows are somehow associated with inferiority; although, not in every case (i.e. think of where you sit in the movie theaters). Your position in congregational prayer doesn’t suggest superiority of one group over the other because the Quran tell us that we’re all equal and that the best among us are those that are the most cognizant of god. We know that god sees all and knows all, regardless of where you stand. Prayer is deeply personal and is done directly to Him.

    Islam’s universal appeal is it’s simplicity. It’s goal is to bring ALL people closer to god through all times. There is a system of worship in place that can’t be changed so that the mission of bringing people closer to god continues.

    Separating women with barriers and rooms is not part of the the Prophets way (Sunnah). However, neither is praying side-by-side. God chose Prophet Muhammad to show us how to pray in congregation. He did not choose you or me. So when I pray, at home or in the masjid, I prefer to follow the Prophet and how he prayed.

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